here are my thoughts;
4 nights Kusadasi (Ephesus, Priene, Miletus, Didyma and day trip to Samos Island)
I would stay in Selcuk or possibly Sirince to experience the real Turkey..Priene, Miletus, Didyma ..can be done in one day..
Ephesus, Isa Bey mosque, St John Basilica , Efes museum etc..one day
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If we had to choose out of Bodrum or Marmaris, which should we choose?
I would not choose Marmaris thats for sure..I agree with the Datca peninsula..and perhaps Bozburun or Dalyan..
Along the Lycian way towards Antalya I would recommend Kaya Koyu, Uçagiz, and Cirali..
If you want to see a place were time has stood still in Turkey and experience what Turkey used to be like about 15 to 20 yrs ago before the influx of all-inclusive and package holidays of the last decade, then Cirali is the place for this..
Cirali is a great little village, nice clean beach and a mix of sand and pebbles, ruins of Olympos and the flames of "Chimaera" the world''s oldest and best-known natural "eternal flame".
No mass tourism or 5 star hotels. Just nice family own hotels and pansiyons. Small shops, quiet bars, restaurants, and no discos. It is more of a place for nature lovers and chilling out. It can be too quiet for some if you are looking for more in the way of and actiive nightlife..
my photos ;
http://www.flickr.com/photos/canmom/sets
Cirali is centrally located between Antalya and Kas and you can travel farily easily to visit nearby historical areas.
And from Antalya then you can make your way to Cappadocia..Ankara or Konya would not be my favorite places for a first time Turkey trip..however for a second or third trip to Turkey..Ankara is a very wonderful and historical place to visit.
forget Side..another touristy area..like the rest have already mentioned the old part for history is great but that is about it..another great town taken over by mass tourism along the coast.
drive straight to the Cappadocia area from Antalya ( 7-8 hours ) or if you really want to make a stop along the way..take a different route towards Egirdir ( make sure to visit Sagalassos ) and then on to Cappadocia..